I have a friend whose son committed suicide this summer. And she’s been told by some of her Christian friends that her son will not go to heaven. Is that true? And do you have Scripture that I can share with her?
I have Scriptures about what brings somebody to heaven. The Bible says that
if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart
that God raised Him from the dead, you shall be saved. If that boy believed
that, then he’s in heaven. It matters not the way in which he died.
What matters is what he believed when he died. Did he believe that Jesus died
for his sins and rose from the dead? If he did, then he is saved; he’s in
heaven. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that
whosoever should believe in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
And if this boy believed in Him, then he will not perish. But make no mistake
about it, if he did not believe in Jesus as his savior, then he did not go to
heaven. It wouldn’t matter if he was killed, if he died at 99 years of old age,
if he didn’t believe in Jesus, he’s not in heaven. But if he did, no matter
what, he’s in heaven.
I have a sister who took her own life and my question is, pretty simply, does it help to pray for her soul or is it considered lost?
Well, that’s a great question. First of all, her soul is only considered lost
if she rejected Jesus Christ and didn’t receive Him as her Lord and savior
before she took her own life. Her soul is not lost because of whether you pray
for her or not. Your prayers cannot do anything after somebody is already dead.
That’s why we need to pray for people while they’re alive, while there’s hope.
But don’t be discouraged just because she took her own life. And I’m not
encouraging anybody to take their own life. But somebody taking their own life
is no guarantee that they’re in hell. The fact is that there are people who have
gotten to the place where they’re in such deep depression and such deep despair
that they feel like they have no other alternative. There’s always another
alternative, but they might feel like there is not one. They might believe in
Jesus, believe that He died for their sins and rose from the dead and so, I have
a hard time believing that if somebody takes their own life, that they’re going
to go to hell. Just as if you took somebody else’s life.
In other words, taking somebody’s life, or taking your own life, that’s not what
sends somebody to heaven or hell. What sends somebody to hell is them rejecting
Jesus Christ as the Lord and savior of their life and rejecting faith in His
blood and forgiveness that comes through His blood. The only thing that will get
us to heaven is receiving Jesus Christ as our Lord and savior and putting our
trust completely in and only Him for our eternal salvation. I hope that helps. I
believe that it does. If she did believe in Jesus, then you’ll see her again.
Don’t let how somebody dies determine whether they’re saved or not. But at the
same time, take it as a wake up call that people around you need prayer, people
around you need compassion. People around us all.
When I was fifteen years old, one of my best friends committed suicide and it
shook me to the core of my very being. We had just talked a day earlier and had
just set up our schedule for our Junior year in High School and we had all our
classes together and we changed everything so that we could make sure that we
had it all together. And then I found out at three in the morning that night
that he had died, that he had taken his own life, that he had killed himself. We
found out the next morning. His parents were looking for him early that morning.
That really shakes a person. And I had to ask myself after that, “Well, what’s
keeping me from doing the same thing?”
It really caused me to open myself up to the gospel and that’s when I started a
search, that’s when God started searching for me, really, and started chasing me
down. And my heart was open. Please take advantage of the opportunity that your
lived ones and friends who knew your sister and loved your sister. I’m sure
their hearts are still open to the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ, and I hope
that you’ll use this, as you probably already have.
Is it true that if you’re a born-again Christian and you commit suicide, you won’t go to hell because God has already given you salvation?
Life is lived at three levels: the spirit, the soul, and the body. Understand
that when we accept Jesus, it is our spirit that is actually born again. Jesus
gives us a brand-new spirit. He doesn’t give us a brand-new soul or body. We
need to change our thinking by believing the Scriptures and adapting our
thinking to line up with the Bible.
The Bible talks about the renewing of your mind in Romans 12. This is where
depression and suicidal thoughts enter in, through the mind and the emotions. If
your spirit is born again, according to John 3 and Ezekiel 36, it is your spirit
that will spend eternity with God. You cannot damage your spirit by committing
sin; you cannot damage your spirit by committing suicide. Because depression and
suicidal thoughts come from the soul realm, if someone does commit suicide and
Jesus Christ is that person’s true Savior, then I believe he or she will go to
heaven. It’s also my belief that if someone is truly saved and truly born again,
that person is not going to want to commit suicide. If you are born again and
you still have suicidal thoughts, then you need to go to the Bible and hope that
God can change you. That’s the most important thing of all.
The real issue is, Why commit suicide if God has a wonderful purpose and destiny
for your life? The bigger lesson is, Don’t commit suicide . . . understand that
salvation comes to your spirit. If your spirit is born again, your mind and
emotions need to find a way to live life God’s way.