I have a question about jealousy and people that are envious of you and they just constantly do things to aggravate you and beef up trouble. They just tell stories all the time on you. They pick at you. They just don’t like you.
I think it’s like this. When you’re 20, you think everybody thinks about you.
When you’re 40, you’re not as worried about what people think about you. But
when you’re 60, you realize nobody’s thinking about you. I think the reality is
we’ve got to not be concerned with what other people think about us. We have to
realize that people are going to think what they think because that’s what they
think. It’s not because of what you do, it’s not because of who you are, it’s
not because you’re giving them a reason to be jealous. When we are jealous, we
are jealous because of something inside of us. Jealousy is the fruit of
insecurity. Jealousy is the branch or the root and the root is insecurity and
the fruit is jealousy. When you’re insecure, you’re going to get jealous.
And what people need to do is they need to get secure in God’s love. They need
to be secure in that they have gifts and they have abilities and that they’re
special and that they’re not like anybody else. People need to know that they
are significant in their relationship with God. And if people don’t feel that
sense of significance and security, then what they’ll do is they will become
jealous of somebody else when somebody else has something that they want or that
they think they deserve.
My feeling on that is when people are jealous towards you, you got to forgive
them. When they’re picking on you, you just got to ignore it. Let it go and you
just got to not be offended. That’s the biggest thing that you have to overcome
is taking it personally. Do not be the mama of somebody else’s drama. That’s
what happens, right? We end up being the villain of their drama, of their movie.
They’re the hero and we’re the villain and we need to just stop letting them
allow us to be the villain and just step back and don’t take it personally.
You’re not going to be able to stop it unless it’s something that you’re doing
deliberately. You’re not going to be able to stop people from being jealous of
you sometimes. So you just walk in love and then whatever they do is between
them and God.
I heard that inner peace only comes from reading the Word and getting it in your mind and so forth. My question is that sometimes I see people with a lot of money and I think they don’t have any problems, but it’s an inside job, isn’t it, to have happiness and contentment?
The answer is yes, it is an inside job. If there is no contentment and peace
on the inside, there is not enough money in this world to give somebody
Sure, money does solve some issues in life, but it doesn’t solve the more
important issues. It can’t heal a sick person and can’t guarantee a good
marriage. It can guarantee a good wedding, but it can’t guarantee a good
marriage. That is something people should really pay attention to. Money can buy
you a great wedding but it can’t buy you a great marriage. Money can buy a great
car but it can’t buy you peace while you’re driving in that car. Money can buy
you a great house, but it can’t create love and warmth and genuineness that are
in that house. So yes, Jesus said "the peace that I give to you," in John 14,
"is not the peace that this world gives," but it is the peace that comes from
Him. That peace passes all understanding. That peace is directly from Jesus
So yes, rich people have problems, people with money have problems. They have
more problems. It is just more expensive problems. They have the same sin for
habits that other people have, and they need the same deliverance. A poor person
without Jesus might commit adultery in an automobile. A rich person without
Jesus is going to commit adultery in the Ritz Carlton Hotel. Both of them are
going to commit adultery without Jesus. So, neither of them are happy. Richer
people have more expensive places they can be unhappy. They are not any happier
because of the money they have.
I find it easy to advocate for others, but when it comes to receiving help for myself or advocating for myself, I find myself a little nervous or ashamed to do that, like I shouldn’t have the better things in life. But I find it easier to do it for others. So, I just need a little advice on how to overcome those fears of advocating for myself and the things that I need.
First of all, number one, God wants you to have the things that you need and
He wants to be your advocate and He wants to fight for you. He doesn’t think
that there’s anything wrong with you trying to have what you want to have,
provided that it’s not ungodly, that it’s not unfair, that it doesn’t harm
But I think you hit on the most important word when you said that sometimes you
feel “ashamed.” Sometimes you feel shame when you try to advocate for yourself,
when you try to obtain something for yourself. And that’s the word that has to
be dealt with. You have had shame in your life. You feel ashamed. You feel
embarrassed, you feel like you’re not worthy, like you don’t deserve these
things. And God wants you to know there is no shame in Him. When you come to
Him, He wipes away your shame. I think that’s what you need to do; you need to
overcome the mentality of shame.
Now, how do you do that? We did a teaching on this and for time’s sake, I’m
going to refer you to our product line at 1-888-438-5433. We have a tape called
“No More Shame.” And this will help you to understand the practical steps that
you can advocate for yourself and ask for the things that God wants you to have
and ask for the things that you want and fight for yourself in a sense. I know
you’re not going to fight people for it, I know you’re not going to harm people
for it, but you need to be free from shame. And that’s something that Jesus has
wiped away through the cross and His blood has washed you from. You don’t need
to be ashamed. You’re worthy to receive those things.
Jesus said, “Look at the sparrows of air, look at the grass of the field. Your
Father clothes them and He feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they
are? And He feeds them and He clothes them and He provides for them. How much
more will He do for you who is worth so much more than the grass or the birds of
the air.” So, I hope that Scripture in Matthew chapter 6 helps you. Study that
and get our tape on “No More Shame.” It’ll really be a blessing to you.
I’m saved but I had gotten into an ungodly relationship about 4 months ago. It only lasted about 2 months and it’s been about 4 months since we have been broken up. I feel a sense of pain and betrayal because he cheated on me. I’m still feeling the pain of that. I’m wondering if that is the judgment from God that since I was in an ungodly relationship that I have to still deal with the pain. I’ve been praying constantly trying to break the feelings.
Number one, it is not the judgment of God, but there is judgment involved. It
is the judgment of the seed you’ve sown. In other words, judgment is built into
the seeds we sow. If you go outside and you sow an apple seed in your backyard
and you take care of it and you water it, what’s the judgment that’s going to
come from that apple seed? It’s an apple tree, right? That’s the judgment.
Judgment in sometimes good, it’s sometimes bad. It all depends on the seed that
If you sow marijuana seed in your backyard, the judgment in that marijuana seed
has built in within itself that it’s going to produce marijuana, that it’s going
to produce a fine or an arrest if you’re caught with it. And all that is not the
judgment of God. All that judgment is the judgment of that seed. So within the
seed, it carries the judgment that is built into it.
And so now you’ve committed fornication and sinned against your body, sinned
against God, sinned against this man, sinned against your future husband, and
inside of the seed of fornication is the judgment of a broken heart. Inside of
the seed that you’ve sowed.
I want to encourage you for the future, be careful about the seeds you sow in
every area of your life and realize that judgment is contained and built in to
every seed that you sow, whether that seed is financial, whether that seed is a
decision, whether that seed is a thought, judgment is built in to that seed.
Have you confessed this sin to the Lord and asked Him to forgive you? James 5:16
says confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you would be
healed. You’ve already confessed your sin to the Lord and you’ve put your trust
in the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ, correct? Then you’re forgiven.
But to be healed of it, sometimes we need prayer according to James 5:16. Stay
out of that relationship and stay out of any future relationship until you’re
ready to get married. Only when you get married, that’s the time to enjoy sex.
Stay out of relationship sexually with people. And the way to do that is to stay
out of relationships that put you in a compromising situation. I encourage
people that if they’re going to date, they date in groups, they date with other
people so that they don’t put themselves in an awkward situation.
I’m not happy and I don’t know why. Nothing ever seems to work out for me. I love the Lord but His purpose for my life is missing.
What a powerful question and something that everybody struggles with. “I’m
not happy and I don’t know why.” There are two reasons why people are not happy
in life. One of them is because the Bible says, “Happy is the man that gets
understanding and the man that finds wisdom.” Proverbs 3:13. So the thing that
we need to do is we need to get understanding from the Word of God.
There’s a reason why we’re not happy. We get depressed and sad when we have a
sense of powerlessness, when we don’t feel the power to change the situations in
our life, when we feel powerless over the condition, powerless over our
situation. So what do we need to do? We need to get understanding and wisdom
because that will give us the power that is necessary to do something about our
situation. That’s number one.
Number two, it says in Romans 14, “Happy is the man that does not condemn
himself.” So if you want to be happy in life, you got to stop condemning
yourself. Stop being a perfectionist. Stop feeling like everything has to be
perfect in your life in order to be happy. Or that you have to be perfect in
your life in order to be happy.
Happy is the one who does not condemn himself. How do you stop condemning
yourself? If you’re born again, you need to realize that in Christ Jesus, there
is no condemnation, and if you’re born again, you also need to realize that God
is not finished with you. And furthermore, God is the God of second chances. If
you’ve failed, if you’ve blown it, get up. God is the God that will give you