Divorce - Divorce General


12/04/2006
I have been divorced twice. Both husbands physically abused me and one ran around with other women. Both were addicted to drugs. Does God allow for divorce under these reasons?

Does God allow for divorce for those reasons? Absolutely. Relationships are based on trust and when somebody is addicted to drugs, when someone is running around with other women, when someone is abusing you, you can’t trust that person. You shouldn’t have to sleep in your bed and wonder if someone’s going to hit you or wonder if someone is going to have been with someone else, or you’re now with a man or a woman who’s been on drugs.

Again, this all stems from being in a relationship with someone you shouldn’t have been with in the first place. So why compound the problem by staying in a relationship with someone that you shouldn’t have been in a relationship to begin with? Had you sought God’s direction, you wouldn’t have married that person to begin with. Had you done things God’s way, you wouldn’t have married that person to begin with, so don’t stay in the prison of an abusive relationship in order to try to honor marriage, when really you didn’t honor God to begin with because you didn’t follow His way of identifying what is a healthy relationship and what is not.