I have been fasting and praying earnestly for quite a while for my mother to get a job promotion. I have been trusting that God will work it out. It seems that God is not answering my prayer; I am not hearing from Him. What should I do?
People that are not even Christians who never pray and never fast – they get
promotions. We have got to be real. And understand that getting promoted is not
always a spiritual issue. It is a natural issue.
Are you at work on time? Are you the best employee? Are you diligent? Are you
following the principles of God’s Word: faithfulness and generosity? And are you
educating yourself and are you improving and are you serving your boss? And are
you serving your company? And are you taking out the trash? If you see something
dirty, are you cleaning it? If you see something on the ground, are you picking
it up? I you find a need, are you filling it? If you find something that’s
broken, are you fixing it?
In other words, God uses natural principles that He instituted in His Word:
faithfulness and loyalty and integrity and hard work and diligence. These are
the principles in the Word of God that if you don’t do those, you can pray and
fast forever and you’ll never get promoted. But if you do those, you may never
even need to pray and fast about that job. And we should reserve our prayer and
fasting to getting a loved one saved or using our prayer and fasting to really
believe for supernatural spiritual breakthroughs in our lives.
But when it comes to promotions in our workplace or to getting a job, Are you
knocking on a thousand doors? Somebody said, “I was praying for eight hours
because I’m out of a job and I didn’t get a job. My prayers aren’t working.”
Well, you should be praying while you walk from door to door, from company to
company, knocking on a door with a suit and a tie on and knowing what it is that
that company produces and knowing what you can do to serve that company. Do some
research. Find out what makes that company work, what makes that company succeed
and get in there and figure it out and roll up your sleeves and be diligent and
be faithful and you will be promoted.
It’s not God’s fault. It’s not that God’s not hearing you. It’s that sometimes
that we’re not hearing from God and maybe your mother needs to look at some of
the ways that she behaves or carries herself. I’m not insulting anybody because
I don’t know the situation. She might be the most diligent person on the planet,
so keep praying and keep fasting. Or encourage her to start looking at another
company because as she’s faithful and she’s loyal and she’s the best employee at
that company and she’s still not getting promoted, then maybe she’s in the wrong
company and she needs to go somewhere else.
I’m in my mid-forties and facing a dilemma as far as my professional career is concerned. I went to school for a number of years. For 9 years, I worked for a Pharmaceutical company. It got bought out and I was kicked out along with 5000 other people. I have a family to feed meanwhile. My choices are I either move and I go on the east coast or the west coast to stay in my field or I stay around here where all of my friends are and my church is and all of that that I’ve built up for so many years with my family and for my family and do something else and that would be with working with my hands. How do you go about that?
I know a lot of people deal with similar situations. You have to follow the
Lord’s will for you life. And how do you know the Lord’s will? Number one, He
leads us by His Word, His Scriptures. Number two, He leads us by His Spirit. And
number three, He leads us by the peace of God that is in our heart.
And if the direction that we’re looking for is not in the scriptures, if you
can’t find it in the Scriptures, you don’t seem to be hearing the voice of the
Lord through the Holy Spirit, then you fall back on the peace of God that passes
all comprehension. And if we’re not seeing it in the Scriptures and not hearing
it from the Holy Spirit, then we need to say, “Alright, what do I have peace
about in my heart?”
Colossians chapter 3 says, “Let the peace of God act as umpire in your heart,
ruling and deciding for you which direction you should go in.” So, what you have
to ask yourself is, “do you have peace in your heart about staying in the city
you’re in, staying in the church your in, staying with the friends that you have
and taking a different career path and working hard at working with your hands
and developing a new gift and a new talent and a new ability? Do you have peace
about that? Or do you have more peace about moving to the east or west coast and
staying in the field that you’ve worked in.
If you have more peace about one or the other, then that’s the choice you need
to stick with because that’s the Lord trying to speak to you and give you a
peace about that. But you should also have some deadlines for yourself. Like,
“within three months, I’ve got to be making ‘x’ number of dollars.” Don’t make
it unrealistic, but make some goals for yourself so that you can provide for
There are times when we’re looking for direction from God that we don’t find it
exactly in the Scripture, we don’t find it in the voice of the Holy Spirit, so
we should look for it in the peace of God that is in our heart. We shouldn’t
look for the peace of God when we know that the Scripture clearly teaches
something already. Whether you have peace or not, you should do what the
I work with a certain celebrity and although my wife and I feel that it is God’s will for me to work with this individual, we’re together every day and I don’t want any of this guy’s stuff to come over on me and yet I’m not seeing any of my spirit going over on him. It gets very, very frustrating. I’m just wondering if this is what God wants for me and if this is His will. I am asking but yet, I’m not getting any answers and I’m to the point where I don’t want to keep working with this person.
I think you need to know that you’re not alone. There are a lot of people who
are in a business or in a job that they really don’t like or don’t love. I
believe that ultimately that God wants you to be in a job and doing what you
love to do. But in the meantime, you’ve got to provide for your family, you’ve
got to provide for your household, you’ve got to take care of your bills.
I think a lot of people are in jobs where they’re not making a positive
influence on the people that they’re with and the people that they’re working
with may potentially leave a negative influence on them. I think that you have
to be strong enough as a man, as a leader, and as a Christian to work in a
secular environment, to work in a non-Christian environment with non-Christian
people, because whether you realize it or not, your light is shining and your
influence is penetrating. You don’t see it right now with the people you work
with, you don’t think that you’re making a difference or making an influence,
but you really are.
And as long as you continue to maintain your convictions, if you maintain your
convictions, then it’s okay to stay in that work environment with somebody who
doesn’t seem to be responding to you. Because you’re not there to convert them,
you’re there to make a living. You’re there to earn some seed so you can plant
some seed and get a harvest. And I think that you should be able to put up with
that longer and not worry that you’re not influencing that person positively. As
long as you hold fast to your convictions and to your faith, you can’t help but
to make a difference in that person’s life. It is penetrating that person.
And realize that in any job, with any people that are not Christians, the
potential for you to stumble or the potential for you to be influenced
negatively is always going to be there. That’s why Jesus prayed regarding His
disciples, “Lord, I don’t pray that you take them out of the world, but keep
them from the evil one even though they have to be in this world.”
So, my prayer for you would be that God would keep you from the evil one even
though you’re in a secular situation with an unbeliever or a person who is not
living for God and if God leads you to walk away from that situation, then do
so, but make sure you have another job on the other side of things so that you
can provide for your family.
Unless you’re following the lifestyle of this person, following the sin of this
person, which I’m sure you’re not, then it’s okay as long as it’s paying your
bills. But keep praying that God would open the door that no man can close for
something else so that you can walk away on your terms, not just because you
can’t stand being around this person any more. There’s always going to be
somebody that you don’t like or that doesn’t like you that you have to work
with. Even in Christian environments that’s true. So, the grass always looks
greener on the other side, but it often is not greener on the other side. So,
hang in there. Be strong.
I’m a Christian business woman in an executive role and I work predominantly with males. I need your advice on how to handle some of the adversities that come just in dealing with business relationships. And not trying to respond with biting somebody’s head off because you had your head bitten off. It’s very tough. It’s easier to apply to the personal life, but I think in the business world especially when dealing with predominantly men, it’s almost sometimes perceived as a weakness in the business world …
Well, it is, but the Bible says in Luke chapter 6 that we are to treat people
not how we’ve been treated, but treat people the way that we want to be treated.
Most of the world and most of society treats people the way they’ve been
treated. And what we need to do is we need to treat people the way we would like
to be treated.
And so, we have to see relationships as opportunities to sow our seed. Even
though I’m getting a bad harvest from somebody at work, I’m going to change the
harvest that I’m getting by changing the seed that I’m sowing. It starts with
me. It doesn’t start with them. They’re not going to treat me better just
because I want them to. I’m going to have to sow the seeds of treating other
people the way that I want to be treated; even if they never treat me like that,
I’m going to treat them that way anyway. And when I do that, I’m setting myself
up for a harvest of having better relationships in the workplace even though
there’s adversity and there are adversaries. The Bible says, “When a man’s ways
are pleasing to the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him” in
Proverbs chapter 16. So, you focus on pleasing God. Focus on treating people the
way you would like to be treated. And you’ll get a harvest from those two
It’s an attitude that you’ve got to have. An attitude of kindness, an attitude
of being interested in what’s best for the other person, but you’ve got to be a
doggone good business person nonetheless and not get walked on. Jesus was shrewd
in the way that He dealt with business. Jesus taught about the shrewd steward
who was a bad steward and then he made some good decisions and he was the
unrighteous steward and then he turned around. And then He talks about the men
who had talents and they traded with their talents and one buried his talents
and He took away the talent from that one. So, we have to be sharp and wise and
prudent. But it’s our attitude; it’s our tone; it’s our spirit in which we
operate that we need to make sure is gentle and kind and loving and thinking
about the other person.
If you go up to somebody… I did this the other day. I went up to somebody the
other day and said, “I thank you for how you’ve handled the situation. I thank
you for how you’ve helped me. And I want a win-win situation here, but here’s
all I can offer you. Here’s all I can do for you.” And when I did that and in
the spirit in which I did it, it was received. But if I would have come out
fighting and saying, “Hey, look, you’re going to take this deal or else…” You
can’t do that. I got what I wanted, but I did it with a gentle spirit, but I
didn’t lie down. I wasn’t perceived as weak; I was perceived as meek. There’s a
difference between meekness and weakness. Weakness is when you just get walked all over by everybody. Meekness is having the strength to strike back, but not doing it, but finding a gentle approach to the situation rather than an argumentative, fighting approach.
Can you help me clarify how to endure at my place of employment? I work for a small place, with a tyrant for a boss and a lot of negativity within the other employees. It is hard for me to go to work everyday having to deal with a man who seems to do most everything against my Christian beliefs.
I would look for another job if that’s true – if that’s an accurate description.
First, try to serve the best you can. Talk to that person if you have an open
door to do that. Say, “listen, you know, could we have mutual respect here?” If
there is no place for you to say that or have that, then you should be looking
for another job.
Don’t quit. Just endure until you’ve found the other job that you need to be in.
But you need to see that place as a transitional position unless something
dramatic changes. But realize, you’re not going to find a perfect Christian
environment everywhere, so don’t try to find that. Don’t try to escape. But if
it’s truly oppressive, then you should be looking for something else.