Sexuality - Before Marriage


10/04/2006
My husband and I are both saved and we made a commitment to not have sex until we were married. We married a year later, but not on paper. Are we living in sin?

That’s a good question but it really defines itself. If you were going to wait to have sex until you were married, why not be married on paper?

How do you define marriage? First of all, God brings two people together of course. Second, we make a commitment to each other. But third, we do need to honor the laws of the land and God has given the laws of the land and that is that you need a marriage license. And that marriage should be ordained by a minister who is ordained to marry and to bury and to baptize.

So I really think that you should get that on paper and get that worked out right away. Go down to the courthouse tomorrow, whatever county that you’re in because yes, you are living in sin if you’re not married legally.


Sexuality - Before Marriage


10/04/2006
What does God say about living together and not being married?

Clearly, God is opposed to that. It’s not healthy for people to live together that are not married. There is no place for that in Scripture. You’re either married or you’re single. If you’re single, you live alone or you live with your parents or you have roommates that are of the same sex, male or female, and you don’t engage in sex outside of marriage period. So living together is only going to put you in a tempting situation and it’s only going to again serve to help you practice divorce when you stop living with that person.